Mean Girls and Weight Loss Surgery

This is something I’ve been thinking about for awhile. I’ve noticed a trend in the post weight loss surgery world, one that kind of bothers me. I’ve noticed a lot of us (and I’ve been guilty of it myself so I’m not pointing fingers at anybody) turn into ‘mean girls’ after surgery.

An example. Someone posts a picture comparing a curvy girl (usually the lovely Marilyn Monroe) to someone who might be considered by most standards too thin. The comments on the thin girl are cutting. Some examples: That’s so gross! That’s unattractive! She looks sooooo unhealthy! That’s disgusting.

Those same comments posted on a photo of an obese woman would have us all frothing at the mouth, getting out the torches and pitchforks, and all out lynching the people making such insensitive comments. Why do we find it acceptable in the first case but not in the second? Is there really a difference between saying the obese woman looks disgusting or saying the thin woman looks disgusting?

In my mind? No, there’s not much difference. I’m no size advocate but, personal preferences aside, I don’t think either is acceptable. I wonder if some of us just forget how hurtful and hateful those kinds of comments really are.

What do all of you think? I really want to hear opinions.


This is a hate free zone

The world is being put on notice. Silence is acceptance. I will not accept or condone this behavior with my silence. I do not need to point fingers or name names. You know who you are if you are reading this.

People are being hurt. Enough is enough. This world is big enough for different opinions, points of view and methods. This world is big enough for the happy rainbow farting unicorn crowd AND the crowd that understands life isn’t all unicorns and glitter.

If you want to know why there is so much bullying going on among teenagers these days in the news, look no further than yourselves. Hate breeds hate. Hate is also learned.

No, I don’t hate anybody in this community, not even the haters. I do feel sorry for you. I feel sorry that you have so little joy in your hearts. I feel sorry that you have no compassion. Most of all, I feel sorry that you hate. It’s an ugly emotion.

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Now that I got this out of my system, I’m going to return to my little corner of the world with my bariatric bad girls.

Obesity Action Coalition – Please Help

It won’t cost you anything, just a moment of your time.

A message from the OAC’s Joe Nadglows:

The OAC needs your help! As some of you may have seen on our Facebook or Twitter Pages, we are participating in a Facebook contest for nonprofits sponsored by Vivint. This is a great opportunity for the OAC because the grand prize, going to the nonprofit who receives the most overall votes, is $250,000!


Right now, Phase 1 of the contest is taking place and will come to a close on June 11. At that time, the top 20 nonprofits from each region (there are five different regions and we are part of the Eastern region) will advance to Phase 2. The top 20 nonprofits from each region will be announced on June 14 and then voting will resume.  As of today, the OAC is close but not yet in the top 20 for our region.

We are reaching out to you to help the OAC advance in this contest. All we are asking is that you vote for the Obesity Action Coalition and that you share this contest with all your followers on Facebook. This contest allows individuals to vote for one charity, once a day, every day, by signing in with their Facebook account. You can vote for the OAC by visiting this Web site:

You place your vote by clicking the “endorse” button. Right above that button is a message that says “I just endorsed Obesity Action Coalition on the Vivint Gives Back Project. Vivint is giving away $1.25 million dollars to local charities and I want Obesity Action Coalition to win.” If you click yes, this message will then be displayed on your Facebook for all your Facebook Friends to see. If possible, the OAC asks that you share this link on your Facebook so we can get the word out to as many people as possible.

With everyone’s help and support, we believe we can win this contest and use the money to continue helping those affected by obesity through education, advocacy and support.

Thank you for your help.